Queer Kid of Color

I love Darryl! Who can’t appreciate a man who airs out his frustrations on his myspace blog?  We can’t get enough of it, can we? Darryl is upset that superstar event promoter Daryl Wilson sold him out at the last minute for the DC Pride events he was scheduled to appear at.

See what he wrote below!

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The promoter for the DC appearance tomorrow night never returned any of my calls or texts. Apparently, he used Jensen’s and my face to advertise the night and then decided to just pocket the money he made by selling those advance tickets. (Jensen may actually still be going. I know they worked out a separate deal.) And you know I am not one to put someone on blast like this. It’s just so shady. He booked us for this weekend months in advance. I canceled other plans when I realized they overlapped with this event. And then he doesn’t even have the decency to call or TEXT to let me know he can’t afford to fly me out!?! I’m sorry to all the folks who had plans to come and see me. I plan on being at Twin Cities Pride in June, so let’s all meet up in Minneapolis. (Some one should invite Prince!!!) Hope you all have a lovely holiday weekend anyway, where ever you are!

Be good babies,
d.

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The only thing Darryl Stephens should be mad about is being in the Noah’s Arc movie, which a source of a friend tells me was an ‘atrocious’ script penned by Patrik Ian Polk, and rewritten more times than the Bible. Read DOWN!

I heard DC Pride was a drag…Everyone migrated down to Sizzle Miami for the weekend.

What went down at these events?!

All the closeted Black queer republicans need to COME OUT already! To the person who wrote the email below thank you!

“I just wanted to write this email to say i know exactly what you mean and what your going thru. I am a gay black republican, who is pretty active in politics, and all my friends being black i get chastised often about it. I also am not for gay marriage and my gay friends think im like hitler for not supporting it. It is sad that we are gay/queer folks are not allowed to have divergent points on issues and are all expected to think like robots. I support and respect you for being so strong in your views and not backing down and at the same time being very articulate and respectful when debating or explaining ur points. Great blog….keep it up, we need more brothas like yourself.”

A blog reader sent me an email giving me the reasons I can’t be a republican. Unlike the rest of the emails and comments I get about being republican I did not choose to brush this one aside with laughter. No, this one I took very very personal. But rather than send him an email cursing him out, squealing, and thus fourth tarnishing my reputation of political office in the future, I addressed him as SOUND AS I COULD. After a few email tosses back and fourth I digressed.

I’m already Black and Queer and to add republican to the mix is just complicated for people to grasp. But only stupid and ignorant bigots can spew out venom condemning my beliefs without asking questions. Thankfully, I’m willing to teach. Last week a blogger offended me harshly when he said, sometimes he wonders if I’m queer at all, because of my stance on same-sex marriage. That was not only rude, but it was also uncalled for and disrespectful. I pity the people who cannot handle a fresh perspective, a breath of fresh air, new ideas, a rare sort of person. Why can‘t people learn to ask questions and embrace different opinions?

My point is, if I do not directly come across articulate enough of my republican stances or any other stances, then ask me to elaborate. I will not cater to ignorant queer people–or any person for that matter—who can’t learn to ask questions.

If you have a question, email me, and ask: queerkidofcolor at yahoo dot com. It really is that simple.

So you like to date, eh? Well, I’ve done some research and I have comprised some dating sites for your benefit. I do not support or endorse any of these sites!

GayEbonyDating
A site for Black same gender loving men who want to meet other Black same gender loving men. I have a problem with the term “ebony”. It really bothers me. And yes, I hate it under a political springboard. Anyone have a problem with that? Eat sand.

HIV POZ
A site for HIV positive individuals. It is also gay friendly.

Serious Hookups
A site for only those who want to get into “serious hookups”… Whatever the hell that means.

GayChubbyDating
A site for men who like chubby gays and chubby gays who want to be found by the men who like them.

HanniDate
A website created for conservatives and republicans. Hmph. And it has an option for gay and lesbians too. You mean there are gay and lesbian republicans? You don’t say.

Pride Dating
No comment.

GayThugDating
Upon my research of these dating sites I have decided this is by far the stupidest dating site I have come across. Although THIS SITE is pretty stupid too. I wonder sometimes, does anyone actually like to date thugs? Or are they merely a bedroom fantasy? Hmph. I’ll choose a fem any day. Where my fems at?!

A Racial Apartheid
What happened to the queer community? There was a time where the we of all races were united to combat the anti-gay rhetoric that homophobes spewed from their mouths. We fought together in the 1960s during government tyranny and police evasion of gay facilities. Now, it seems like the queer community is under a racial apartheid which is purported by queer organizations and bluntly exercised through mainstream queer images. When I came out I never thought my queerness would be sublimated through my Blackness. I never believed under any instances that being Black will be a battle within an already oppressed community. I was wrong. Every time I hear a white person scream “gay pride!” I feel like the context they use it in is subliminally ingrained into the message “white gay pride!” Gay pride has never represented me. I’m not on Showtime’s The L Word, or Queer As Folk. LOGO only gave me Noah’s Arc and The Reception. The last time I saw a gay man on The Advocate was last year when Doug Spearmen of Noah’s Arc was on the cover. This racial apartheid within the queer community is why you never hear about new movements occurring to build bridges between the queer and heterosexual community. We’re too focused on gay parades, branding ourselves and being separatist, that we’ve lost our ability to revolt and fight against the prejudices of society.


Why I Don’t Support Marriage Equality
I consistently face the blunder of organizations that markets “gay marriage” on parade floats with a Washington Mutual logo commercializing on the bedrock that goes against the historical context of an institution used to populate the world. This blunder is spearheaded by members of The Gay Agenda (as I call it). I have said it once and I will say it again: I do not support marriage equality. Marriage equality is severely overrated. Because they want to be equal, the proponents of The Gay Agenda are embroiling over a battle that will never fuse. If I get married it will be under the basis of 1,138 plus rights that comes with having a legally recognized institution. Marriage will not be an institution that validates my love and commitment to my partner. I will not push for marriage equality when 46% of Black gay men are living with HIV. I will not push for marriage equality when young queers buy image and not books. I will not push for marriage equality until every queer person I know knows the year the Stonewall riots occurred. I will not push for marriage equality until the queer community is not comprised of image extremist. Can you make that happen? Or perhaps marriage for queers under different legislative means can get me out to support marriage equality.

Gay “Families”
I have a problem with the relational names queer people throw around. You know, the relational names that refers to gay men as mothers or gay male friends as their sisters. It makes me, in many ways, sad. It saddens me because while we’re trying to exercise our human rights as equal people we come across as stereotypical by reinforcing the stigma that says that queer men are trying to be anything other than men. I can understand calling someone your gay father, but calling a man a mother? Calling a man a daughter? Calling a man a sister? I’m ignorant in the subject, so please try to open my mind. I have had gay men ask to be my ‘gay mother’. I dismiss them as gay mothers, but welcome them as mentors. I don’t have any close friends with a gay family. So it’s not like I can go to any of them and ask them to explain the terminology of calling men “daughter” or “sister” or “mother”. I understand gay families, I do. I just don’t get why a man will call himself a mother. I’m ignorant in the subject, so please be light if you’re going to try to convey the idea behind the terminology.

I will be posting this weekend. I apologize for the weak postings. But my eyes are strained from the glare of the computer because of all the time I’ve put into final papers.

My apologies.

Christopher Street the series has wrapped production. Expect the release of the project by the end of the summer.

Please support my short film which I will hopefully complete by this summer. Donate as much as you can. $1, $5, $10, whatever you can will help. Anything is greatly appreciated. Please donate here.

I will be discontinuing the blog before the summer is over. It is a decision I have been thinking about for a while and I’ve finally decided after two years the QueerKidofColor blog is finished. I appreciate the support of each and everyone of my readers so much. Thank you for being with me for the last two years.