Qualities of a Good Man
I often don’t write about relationships and dating and stuff of that nature. I probably won’t get the same response to this post the way others response to my other more “conservative” postings. But I’m curious to know, what are some qualities you look for in a potential partner?
Bernie said,
December 21, 2007 at 2:27 pm
Honesty. Interest in being in a relationship. Interest in being in a relationship with me specifically. Shared values and interests. Purpose and goals in life. A strong sense of humor and an ability not to take himself or life too seriously. A good relationship with his family. Respect for those who don’t have the advantages he has.
darkdaughta said,
December 22, 2007 at 3:42 am
The person has to be able to feel…their own emotions. If they don’t understand what their own emotions are, they won’t be able to empathize with mine, because they won’t be able to recognize a bona fide emotion. They have to be able to understand something about the family they were born and raised in. I mean the stuff that we’re taught to forget or to hide. This stuff, just as much as the positive stuff, as the good times we remember easily, shape who we are and shapes how we deal when we get into relationships. They would have to be able to see their parents, and if they’re a man, especially their fathers, brothers, uncles or any other influential male figure in their lives, clearly. Men are taught about what it means to be a man from the men they know, admire and love. If these men have messed up ways about them, whether it’s because they’re overt patriarchs, meaning hardcore authoritarian bastards, or whether they’re more undercover about their shit, the person would have to be able to understand how this relates to them and to how they behave. But, I’m typing an awful lot on the blog of someone who might not even want an old queer bitch commenting here. Toodles.
Rocafella07 said,
December 22, 2007 at 9:52 am
I hope this isn’t what you call “liberal”…Cuz, WOW!! LMAO!!
Anyway, I like a guy who has a mean swagger. A guy who’s different from other people. Nice eyes, stays fit, and has a BIG…Brain! A guy who’s secure with himself. Nice lips. Ambition. A good heart. A guy who just has an “essence” about him.
whozhe said,
December 23, 2007 at 12:21 pm
An attractive man, someone open minded but confident in his point of view. Someone kind and gentle but aggressive when the heat is on. Someone trustworthy and dependable. Someone who admits his shortcomings and not afraid to address mines.
shsco06 said,
December 25, 2007 at 10:18 pm
First and foremost I want the person that I am involved with to think the world of me! I want them to love me as much as I love them. I would like for them to be affectionate and to be honest and able to compromise!!!!!!!!
manchild1 said,
December 26, 2007 at 9:12 pm
someone who can ride or die…period.
Trevor Tate said,
December 29, 2007 at 5:30 am
Straight up these qualities u should look for in a good man are the way he treats people. Does he open door for people, will he help pick up papers that someone has droped. Does he have goals, dreams, ambitions. Does he know how to communicate. Does he know himself, is he out on the downlow …..what? How does he treat u and make u feel ten months after. Do u feel the same way as u did when u first met him? But I think that u should not focus so much on his qualities as much as u should focus on u. Only because if u have a strong firm sensce of self then a good man will come alone that is made perfect for u.
Nikkii Waites said,
January 26, 2008 at 10:37 pm
The qualities of a good man is someone who you can communitcate with. He would bend over backwards just to make to happy. He has to have good hygenes and a perfect white smile. The do not mind saying no and yes mam’ to an older person. He has to dress decent and not sagg.
jessica said,
October 9, 2008 at 7:57 am
i think a good guy will make ur heart smile, and be their to hold u thru the tears ( and dont let them tears be bc of him, or drop HIM) , to put himself out their more than u, in my eyes the guy tht is the one will care more for her than himself. He wants her happy b4 his own. Hes a good provider, an most importantly he respects his parents or at least his mom. & check into his family history (trust me this is a BIG issue for most) and well evn tho it might not seem so big at first later down the road it surely plays a role!
But who am i to say much, ive had more than enough heart breaks
But we all live & learn.
asim said,
February 24, 2009 at 7:35 am
a good man is one who respect his elders
Lexis said,
March 7, 2009 at 7:51 am
A good man is one who is God fearing and has yielded himself fully to The Holy Spirit(THS)
Mwanafunzi said,
April 5, 2009 at 5:22 pm
We all have different standards of what a good man is or should be…
A good man is whatever his woman wants him to be… If he fits her standards then he is good… for her.
Mbah chioma said,
April 24, 2009 at 11:22 am
i realy what to know what i can do as a lady to attract a good nan.thanks
Mbah chioma said,
April 24, 2009 at 11:31 am
i realy want to know what i can do as a lady to attract a good man.thanks
subash said,
November 3, 2009 at 11:54 am
you don’t have to do anything to look good. You are already a good and attractive lady by writing a simple sentence. It speaks volumes. Thanks
hajara said,
July 2, 2009 at 10:39 am
your comment was so interestiing thanks
lady bug said,
October 8, 2009 at 10:30 am
how do i show my boyfriend that i love him so much
subash said,
November 3, 2009 at 11:52 am
You can see a good man in Movies. Heros. Don’t set standard for others. Set standard for yourself.
mercy said,
November 4, 2009 at 4:16 pm
A good man is one who loves ,tolerate,care,kind and have full concern 4 u