Qualities of a Good Man
I often don’t write about relationships and dating and stuff of that nature. I probably won’t get the same response to this post the way others response to my other more “conservative” postings. But I’m curious to know, what are some qualities you look for in a potential partner?
Bernie said,
December 21, 2007 at 2:27 pm
Honesty. Interest in being in a relationship. Interest in being in a relationship with me specifically. Shared values and interests. Purpose and goals in life. A strong sense of humor and an ability not to take himself or life too seriously. A good relationship with his family. Respect for those who don’t have the advantages he has.
darkdaughta said,
December 22, 2007 at 3:42 am
The person has to be able to feel…their own emotions. If they don’t understand what their own emotions are, they won’t be able to empathize with mine, because they won’t be able to recognize a bona fide emotion. They have to be able to understand something about the family they were born and raised in. I mean the stuff that we’re taught to forget or to hide. This stuff, just as much as the positive stuff, as the good times we remember easily, shape who we are and shapes how we deal when we get into relationships. They would have to be able to see their parents, and if they’re a man, especially their fathers, brothers, uncles or any other influential male figure in their lives, clearly. Men are taught about what it means to be a man from the men they know, admire and love. If these men have messed up ways about them, whether it’s because they’re overt patriarchs, meaning hardcore authoritarian bastards, or whether they’re more undercover about their shit, the person would have to be able to understand how this relates to them and to how they behave. But, I’m typing an awful lot on the blog of someone who might not even want an old queer bitch commenting here. Toodles.
Rocafella07 said,
December 22, 2007 at 9:52 am
I hope this isn’t what you call “liberal”…Cuz, WOW!! LMAO!!
Anyway, I like a guy who has a mean swagger. A guy who’s different from other people. Nice eyes, stays fit, and has a BIG…Brain! A guy who’s secure with himself. Nice lips. Ambition. A good heart. A guy who just has an “essence” about him.
whozhe said,
December 23, 2007 at 12:21 pm
An attractive man, someone open minded but confident in his point of view. Someone kind and gentle but aggressive when the heat is on. Someone trustworthy and dependable. Someone who admits his shortcomings and not afraid to address mines.
shsco06 said,
December 25, 2007 at 10:18 pm
First and foremost I want the person that I am involved with to think the world of me! I want them to love me as much as I love them. I would like for them to be affectionate and to be honest and able to compromise!!!!!!!!
manchild1 said,
December 26, 2007 at 9:12 pm
someone who can ride or die…period.
Trevor Tate said,
December 29, 2007 at 5:30 am
Straight up these qualities u should look for in a good man are the way he treats people. Does he open door for people, will he help pick up papers that someone has droped. Does he have goals, dreams, ambitions. Does he know how to communicate. Does he know himself, is he out on the downlow …..what? How does he treat u and make u feel ten months after. Do u feel the same way as u did when u first met him? But I think that u should not focus so much on his qualities as much as u should focus on u. Only because if u have a strong firm sensce of self then a good man will come alone that is made perfect for u.
Nikkii Waites said,
January 26, 2008 at 10:37 pm
The qualities of a good man is someone who you can communitcate with. He would bend over backwards just to make to happy. He has to have good hygenes and a perfect white smile. The do not mind saying no and yes mam’ to an older person. He has to dress decent and not sagg.