Queer Kid of Color

From the publishers of Queerty and Jossip , comes Stereohyped.

 Hotness.

Things like this break my heart.

While doing research for an article on relationships and dating for my ”Queens, Thugs, and NewYork” column I came across this sad ad.

My school (a college in the East Village) is having a parade and we the students each need to participate. I am kind of against this as a requirement, so my “contribution” is that I am using the parade as a chance to come out of the closet and introduce everyone to my boyfriend. This is an act.

Please send a picture in your reply, I’ll send one to you and we can both know who the other is, as we are dating. Thanks.

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“And that was the end of it,” my friend Gene concluded his story about the sex with no penetration date he had the previous night. It’s sad to say that Gene thinks that this “relationship” between him and that stranger would good somewhere. I guess no one told Gene that there are no second romps in NYC that once you give yourself intimately to someone who you’ve only known for five hours prior, that it’ll just go downhill from there. I had to remind him of this, but still he was optimistic. Of course I knew everything about relationships, even though I’ve never went on a date, I know what makes them work and what doesn’t. Sure I’ve always been single and sure I’ve only taken myself out to the movies and the only man in my life has been
New York City. But I know relationships; and how special they are.

 I’m tired of hearing my best friend [no I’m not talking about Gene] complain about how there’s no one out there for him. Sometimes I have to knock him into reality and remind him that he’s only 18 years old. I’m always hearing complains from him, “he’s too feminine”, “he’s too thuggish”, “he’s not my type”, “dude he dropped out of high school”, “he dresses weird”. I have heard it all from him. My best friend is very smart, well educated, and very attractive. Yet he spoils himself on that. He’s looking for a guy who is exactly like him. Essentially, he is going to end up by himself if he keeps up looking for his equivalent. I don’t understand why people as young as 18 [even younger] worry about relationships, love, dating. Why I ask myself? By this time they’re just discovering yourself: ending high school, some starting college, becoming more at ease with your identity. But I figure that most people aren’t as patient as me and aren’t willing to wait like me, because, well, they want to be desired right away. I still maintain that I don’t care about relationships now because I know I won’t be alone forever. So what if I’m single for another year? I know it isn’t because I’m unappealing. I know it isn’t because I’m not special. I know it isn’t because I’m not intelligent. It’s because the profile I’ve built for that special someone; intelligent, thought provoking, politically obsessed, and a little obnoxious—has yet to come my way. I’ll know when he’ll come, I will.  

By the way…Gene and the guy he had that sexual excursion with are now together. I guess getting intimate with someone the first date does work.

The Christian & Sir Intellectual you guys both prepared me for the person who will someday come my way in ways you wont imagine. I enjoyed my time with both of you. And I hoped it would have worked out, even a good friendship. But it didn’t. That’s OK. If you guys still read this website…thank you for everything, seriously.    

There’s a new black gay blogger. Please be friendly and check him out.

 http://kennonpurdy.blogspot.com/

A few weeks ago my friend and fellow gay rights activist Randy Wicker told me that he thought transgender people are an important bridge between people of all genders and orientations. That same day I was in discussion with my friend Dave who told me he saw no use for drag queens and thought that they are of a nonsense to our community. These particular comments led me to evaluate my thoughts in our community as a whole.

 It may be difficult for people to understand why many look up to these parodies of women and why many find them funny and how they became prime in the gay community.  The truth of the matter is that drag queens deserve every adulation that comes to them, because they set the standards, they redefined gender, and they were the main component in the revolution against ignorance and what we now come to know as the Gay and Lesbian Civil Rights movement. On June of 1969, not thinking of the consequences of her actions, Sylvia Rivera, a then 17 year old drag queen initiated the Stonewall riots. This tall, thin, fragile being led what would become known as the start of the Gay & Lesbian Civil Rights movement.  

Drag queens also play huge factors in the lives of young men and women who are entering the “gay” lifestyle. During the Harlem Renaissance, drag queens created what is known as the “ballroom scene”. This scene has quickly evolved and is one of the most proverbial components for young men and women looking to embrace their sexuality and freely express themselves.  

So, where does that leave us now? It is true that some may see them as the headship of our community. In the past we’ve seen the media plaster the images of drag queens as the governance of our community. But if anything that’s because they were the only ones willing to lead their life in the open.  I will not digress in my pervious statements referring to the drag queens as the pioneers that brought not only visibility but creativity to the gay scene. To call these people impious shows ignorance because not even the most homophobic can doubt their position or prevalence in the gay community.

So I continue in my debate. What would happen if Sylvia Rivera wouldn’t have thrown that shoe? What if there was no ballroom scene, where would the young men and women struggling to get by feel safe at? What would happen if Kevin Aviance, RuPaul, Harmonica Sunbeam, and Bunny never existed? Where would we be? Drag queens have made mainstream look into the queer community more, thus revealing more portrayals of us. They deserve attention. Because rebels need to be acknowledge; especially when they defy norms.  

I’ve always and will continue to believe that you can “become” heterosexual. Just like I believe heterosexuals can become homosexual. But I dont think this happens under an influence or under desire. Well, a fourth friend of mines, has now become straight. Nope. It wasn’t because of the church. But rather because “gays play to much games”.

 How nice.

Two people? Two people? Out of the thousands of black gays out there only two made the list for the most powerful 50 gays and lesbians in America. How in the world did Anderson Cooper and Jodie Foster make it to the list? They dont even identify as gay or lesbian…openly. It seems to mean that Out Magazine is just trying to create controversy and sell magazines. Sad. Just sad.

People OUT left OUT 

Patrik Ian Polk, creator of Noah’s Arc -    Keith Boykin, Activist & Author

Jasmyne Cannick, Activist  -     Angel L. Brown, Founder of Queer Black Cinema

Dwight O’Neal, Creator of Christopher Street -  The cast of Noah’s Arc

Dwight Powell, Founder of Clik Magazine -   Neil Lowe, CEO of Phoenix Media Group

Pam Spaulding, Popular Lesbian Blogger -  Maurice Jamal, Writer/Director

Toshi Reagon, Musician  -   E. Lynn Harris, Author

Derrick L. Briggs, Founder the Derrick L. Briggs book club -  Lee Daniels, Producer

Phill Wilson, Activist -  Sheryl Swoopes, Former Basket Ball Player

Hon Keeves, Mayor -  Rod McMullen, Political Commentator/Writer

Carl Bean, founder of Unity Fellowship Church-  John Amaechi, Former Basket Ball Player
Angela Robinson, Filmmaker

The Justice of MH

Who is Justice MH? Justice MH is that young blogger who’s too opinionated, wise, and ready to debate!
 
Why did you decide to create a blog? I wanted to express myself. I also wanted to give my perspective on life, gay issues, religion, politics, and just everyday experiences.
 
Are you bi or gay? I am gay and black i might add. You know what works on my damn nerves is when people ask how you know you gay or how did you know? Well i said how you know you straight or how did you know. I can be a smartass at times.For you steven and everyone i’ll let you know how i knew. I was five years old, yes i can remember that far. I was five, second year in school, and i felt drawn to this bi-racial boy that always sit across from me. We were friends, but what i felt i know was more than friendship! I had a crush on him until the fourth grade. Another time was when i was 9 years old, i was by my cousin house, and we were watching that LL Cool J video with the waterfall. I wish he didn’t have that shirt off, but he had my attention! Well my older female cousin was able to openly say how hot he was, and i was like you “bitch”. I still love though. But at that time that “bitch”. It’s funny how i can remember my homo moments, but can’t remember anything else that young!
 
Are you out to your family? If so, how did you come out? If not, why haven’t you come out? Yes i am out to my close family who i see everyday. For the extended family, they’ll find out when we see each other. I came out to my mom by talking about my best friend who’s a lesbian, and by defending gay people. If that’s not enough signs.
She then asks me are you, and im surprise she doesn’t sound at all mad, just calm. I said yes mom i’m gay. She got quiet, looks at me for a few seconds, then here comes the questions. She asks are you sure, you confuse, and did anybody do something to you? I’m like my mom i’m gay, and no to all the above. After a while she’s trying to understand, came around to know me fully, and now we’re even closer. I get a call a few days later from my bible-loving ass grandmother. Yes i said that about my grandmother, because it’s true! We talk for a couple of minutes, then blows on me about is it right that two men or two women being together. I told her i don’t have to answer that! She gets real quiet. So i broke the silence by saying whatever you’re thinking you’re right. She then says i’ll talk to you later! So we were mad with each other for a few days. I had talk to my uncle, and just said don’t worry about her. To be honest, i was pretty upset about it. After cooling down a few days, we talk, made up, and still close. I plan to get in a deeper discussion about it!
 
Are you single? Currently and as of right now, yes i am.
 
Have you ever dated a girl? I had a couple of girl friends in elementary, and middle school. In my early high school years, i went to a all male catholic, which was almost all black. So that’s about it for as dating girls.
 
Have you ever been cheated on? For as i know, no. But knowing how life is, it may happen or not.
 
Have you ever had your heart broken? I can’t say that i have, so no!
 
You focus a lot on sexual identity, religion, & homosexuality, and politics, is that more so who you are? Yes is more who i am.  The topics above that i have written about is a real interest for me. I try to expand beyond that, and i will even more in due time!
 
You asked a thought provoking question in your blog and now i would like to ask you the same question and would like it if you could elaborate, what do you think the bible or the U.S Constitution to govern our country? Well i can tell you this is i certainly don’t want the bible or any other so-called holy book governing this country. This country is for the free, equal, and diverse. So may think that’s a dream, i think it’ll be a nightmare. If that happens, i’m moving to canada, where marriage equality is already legalized. I mean think about it, they already use the bible to control every detail in your life. They dictate who you can marry, and date. They dictate the racial background of who you can be with. They dictate when can you have sex. They dictate how often can you have sex. They dictate who is dominant in the relationship. They dictate which sexual position to be in. They dictate what you wear, read, and watch on tv. They dictate when you can eat meat. Some these religions who shall remain unnamed are fill with dictators who use their holy book to control. i don’t know about anybody else but it sounds like some form of a cult. As i said American is successful with the wisdom of our founding fathers to create a document that makes sure everyone is guaranteed equal status!
 
Do you think Homosexuality is a sin? Now you know steven this is a set it off question for me. No, Homosexuality is not a sin. I already cover this topic with those six verses on my blog, with help from a professional in the field. I don’t think, it simply is not a sin!
 
What advice do you have for black gay youth? My advice would be to never let anyone make you feel like you don’t have a place in this world, and to make you feel like you have nothing to offer! Never let anyone make you feel like you don’t deserve to breathe the same they do! Never let anyone make you feel ashamed, self-hatred, and make you feel like you feel like you have to take your own life for their ignorance, and stupity. I don’t care who it is, or what book they quote from. It’s also time for us to become much more visible, and active. Our communities need to know and see that all gays are not white. We need to stop looking for so much of acceptance and approval! We need to show them we’re not taking your shit anymore! They may not like it, or agree with us, but they’ll learn to respect us!

I’m producing Christopher Street the series. Once and a while I like to remind you all of the show and show off the trailer.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=34yiyJqt28o

I’m back in college! Finally, I’ve arrived.

Take a look under this blog at Joey Bahamas interview as well.

Blogger event now shortened to three days…sorry people. The other three bloggers interviews will be published some other time…if at all. Tomorrow interview will be Justice MH.