Feminine Boys Are Beautiful
Last night I was asked the question what types of guys are you into? In which I replied swiftly, “anyone as long as they’re fem.” In which the person then replied, “you might as well date a girl.”
I just notice a pattern here, every time I write a blog its because someone prompt me to write it. But that’s beside the point.
Why are people always referring to fems as females? I like me a fem. I’ll date females if they have a penis and no chest, know any of those? I’m sick of these stereotypes masculine men can only be tops, fems can only be bottoms. I know masculine bottoms! Ha! I know a lot of those. People get all warped up when I say I like fems. Who gives a shit if I like the effeminate. That makes them just that sexy. Any guy who can strut themselves down the street and get attention then that’s a real diva and HE has a chance with me- according to my playbook.
Feminine boys are beautiful. So power to them all.
Anonymous said,
November 7, 2006 at 11:26 pm
Who Cares!
You like who you like - personally FEMS are not for me, but who cares…
I think we get too caught up into what other people think.
If you like - I love…
Manchild1 said,
November 8, 2006 at 12:56 am
Yo..you like what you like…
I would change that for anybody.
ReggieH said,
November 8, 2006 at 3:22 am
Bravo to you for saying this! So often Femboys get dissed by our community
dancehard said,
November 8, 2006 at 4:02 pm
Very insightful post! I used to be one of those folks who would look at you crazy for declaring your fem attraction, but not anymore. While I still got love for my masculine men, I’ve learned to appreciate the style and attitude of brothas with a “little sugar in the tank”.
I find it very refreshing (and kinda hot) when men can straddle that line between what’s socially considered “masculine” and “feminine” and work that shit out. Another representation of male beauty, if you ask me.
This post reminds me of a post by blogger Derrick Briggs where he gives mad love to masculine bottoms. If you get a chance, go to his site and read his poem “Bottom in a Fitted”. On point!
Very nice blog brotha, keep it up!
The Captain said,
November 8, 2006 at 5:06 pm
This is sickening. Aside of the sexual perference of top or bottom, why would a man want to act, look, smell, or be seen as a soft, girly look-alike?
Omar Ramon said,
November 13, 2006 at 7:50 pm
People are beautiful, personal preference aside once we mature enough individually and as a group to stop assigning value to aperson and just accepting and celebrating them for who they are, life will be so much better.
fuzzy said,
November 13, 2006 at 8:10 pm
Go Head Boy!!!
I’m a masculine brutha. Though I’m not going to get into my sexual role just know that I break the mold
Nathanael said,
February 12, 2007 at 7:07 pm
I know this is a really late comment, and I’m sorry, but I’m a feminine boy, and I like what you said ^^. People shouldn’t really judge others because of their personality, because they might as well suck up to being judged too. It’s that karma thing, “what goes around, comes around.”
JOSHUA said,
June 14, 2007 at 7:25 pm
I am a feminine boy and it really upsets me when straight acting gay or bi guys say , “i don’t do fems”, because to me it seems like they are insecure, or in the closet about being gay.
andrew said,
July 5, 2007 at 8:35 pm
I am a feminine boy, and I know some masculine guys that like fems. Just because a guy is feminine does not mean that he wants to be a girl, nobody can really say what a guy is supposed to be like.
Marcos said,
July 13, 2007 at 4:10 pm
People need to get over the labels! The truth is people are all different and fall in between spectra of gender and sexuality. It doesn’t make anyone less attractive for being himself because he is being true to who he is inside and outside.
It’s really unfair and illogical that people, especially straight men, are so predisposed to apply and moreso LIVE under these labels. Some straight men have slept with other men. But they’re still straight… (?)
What I’m saying is that people are too obsessed with labels, and people that are differently gendered like fem-boys get crap for it. It’s not fair. I wouldn’t exactly call myself a fem. But I’m not masculine at all. My gender falls inbetween. And that should be okay.
Live and let live.
Sister James said,
October 1, 2007 at 8:00 pm
Hey guys…James again.
Yea. I’m probably the biggest fag you’ll ever meet. A sissy ass stereotypical bottom. I can’t detest to _any_ penis going in my asshole, as long as it’s big enough. My penis is so small, I’d never even think of topping. I do like to pretend I’m a little fag boy as the straight acting top is ramming me like I’m a little queenie bitch, with my erect penis barely reaching my bellybutton and me screaming like a stocked pig.
Sometimes I just stay soft and never even touch my penis when I’m getting fucked–I like to assume the woman role completely, and just ignore I have a penis.
femboy17 said,
March 10, 2008 at 11:14 pm
I am 25 yo and I am proud to be a femboy , in fact a friend of mine is currently writing a book bout me ,about my life and how I travelled around the globe to find a place where I can be myself. Growing up in a third world country like the Phil. I feel I have been thorough.I was born in Puerto rico but grew up overseas and now living in NYC with my partner which is a masculine Italian men .
After moving to NY from PR I realized that there are some gay men that don’t like me, they even don’t respect or acknowledge drag queens and what they meant an how they are very important in our community ,with out them we won’t have the freedom and rights we are experiencing right now .
Me being a femboy has nothing to do with wanting to be a girl , I could of if I wanted to but I know I love my dick so much to give it up .I love freedom of expression and I love fashion both men and women’s fashion and I mix and match them and I know I feel good about myself and that’s what counts .
I have met masculine guys that can’t even get their dicks up if there is no dick up their ass and some of them talks and laugh like little girls which is a total turn off
Any men that have an issue about their feminine side means they have a problem within themselves and the ones that are too arrogant about them looking masculine and got so much attitude about it is a sign of another form of ignorance .
As as community ,we should all respect one another and most importantly accept one another because if we don’t then how the hell do we expect for the heterosexual world to accept us ,if our own community doesn’t even have unity ???
be yourself it is the most amazing feeling but at the same time sccept others for who the are too
Love, Light and Happiness always,
femboy17
janetzboy said,
May 6, 2008 at 11:08 pm
Speaking as a one of the femboys, I have so much love to give to a man and because I am not BUTCH ( I hate that word) most men will not even give a second glance. A full out tranny has an easier time pulling a man than I do. I am comfortable in my skin and with how I look. There has to be some way we can be reconized! We are here, and we love just as hard and just as deep.
toddyenglish said,
June 3, 2008 at 11:17 pm
I love this article.
Myself, I’m not exactly fem. But I’m not super masculine either. I am somewhere in the middle, and that is super duper fine by me.
I for one hate the anti-fem discrimination that goes on in the gay community, particularly the black gay community. The feminine brothas are demonized and ridiculed and it is hardly fair.
We are always caught up in this quest to achieve this MACHO image; when in fact we are ignoring what makes us truly beautiful as gay men. I love the way some fems straddle the fence between male and female (i.e. androgyny). It just shows that human sexuality is much more complex than we say it is.
I dated a fem guy before and he was the bomb to me! Uhm, my ex-boy flailed his hands and swished his hips, and he could throw down in the kitchen…He cooked good food and even traded outfits with me. lol. We broke up but I still have love for him. I like that fem guys are in touch with their feminine side while still being beautiful men.
So, even though the highly fem types (like Alex on Noah’s arc)aren’t my speed…I would go with someone with a glide in his stride and a pep in his step…And with lip gloss and earrings…LOL. *snap*
sir arthur thompson said,
July 8, 2008 at 8:44 pm
to be completely honest i love feminine girly rican boys!! i think they are so cute and they have a different side of themselfs.Right now im seeing someone who is like a wifey type to me seriously.His name is chucky and we been seeing each other for about week ahalf. i like the fact dat not only he is feminine but he is rican. i accept him for who he is not for just the feminine side of him. i enjoy his company dearly alot i wouldnt know what do with myself if he wasnt part of my life. we taking things slow and still getting to know each other better before becoming bf/bf. i just hope dat he understands the way i feel for him i dont feel towards anybody else.